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Perfect your online profile

Perfect your online profile

Dear Brent, I am really not finding the people online who I want to connect with. I am on multiple sites and when I find someone who I am attracted to, he or she don’t seem interested and rarely talks to me. Unfortunately, the creepy ones always send me messages instead. How can I become better at the online game and make my profile more appealing?

Unfortunately, your feeling that being online is much like playing a “game” is accurate. Actually, many people feel that it is like playing a game that you never win … many times you just lose. The reality is that there are rules and strategies that are helpful to know when you play any game to help you perform better and possibly win.

The first thing is to figure out why you are playing this game. In previous columns, I have discussed the benefits of using profiles to meet great people, but what you put out in cyberspace should be a reflection of what you want. There are so many ways to present yourself in an online profile. Think of it as a precursor to a job interview as you take a quick ride in an elevator. You only have a few moments to put out that you are an interesting candidate to fill their available slot … no, not that slot.

Be honest about what you want. Feel free to state that you are looking for a six-foot tall Asian who is packing more than 10 inches, appreciates the finer points of 18th century chamber music and is an expert in French cooking.

Be sure to include interests you possess, as well. Hopefully you will feel comfortable listing some of your own strengths, interests and passions.

If you have no idea of who you are, what you want, or what you’re looking for in someone else, log off immediately and spend some time getting to know yourself first.
And remember, there is no perfect person out there, but there are some incredible people who you can enjoy on many levels. And be careful about being too rigid in your expectations. You might miss out on a great opportunity.

Although ideas you convey in your profile give someone an extremely important first look into who you are and what you want, most times there is a visual interest that precedes reading your profile. Visual attractions usually happen first, having a good online profile can add to your allure. Good photos are very important. They can show your interests and hobbies as well as your body, pretty eyes and heart-melting smile.

You may want to consider being cautious about putting out naked images of yourself that could potentially be passed around online. This has the possibility of compromising your integrity and even your safety.

One of the best tools to improve your online profile is to have a good friend read it and give you some honest feedback. Don’t be afraid to take his or her advice when you hear that your pants are too tight or that orange is a really bad color on you. Be open to taking advice, but at the end of the day, know that it is ultimately your profile and own it.

Hopefully this has given you some good starting ideas on how to modify your profile. With these improvements, you can increase your chances to connect with other like-minded people. Please don’t forget that we live in one of the most beautiful states and it is a shame to lock yourself away from real human contact by focusing solely on technology. Use it as a tool to get out and enjoy life.

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