Accepting what is, the ultimate inside job

I have long been aware that my feelings and emotions are serious indicators of my congruence.

By that, I mean, my feelings let me know if my thoughts, words and actions are in alignment. If one or more of those three expressions is out of alignment then it is quite likely that I have found myself looking at someone or something other than myself as the cause.

Whenever we find ourselves angry, frustrated or disappointed it is a very clear indicator that there is something within that is looking for our attention. Invariably there is something inside me that has taken an attitude of wanting to compare, to understand, to blame, to be right or to judge – my ego. I have let my ego take the wheel and now it is expressing its innate desires. Somewhere along the line I have lost contact with my ability to accept what is. I do not mean to accept everything is “all good” like so many think is what we are called to do because sometimes it seems like it “all sucks.”

Rather than live in the denial, I strive to ask myself what requires my attention. Where is it in my alignment that I need an adjustment? It never has anything to do with the other person, even if there has been some undeniable wrong or unacceptable behavior. Certainly in those instances, I can discern that the person in question is someone best left alone, but without “giving permission” for bad behavior there is still an inner requirement to accept that which has transpired.

Whenever I go inside with my emotions and feelings I find a place where I can release the ego’s needs and bring myself back into alignment, so that what I am thinking, saying or doing is no longer out-of-whack with my integrity.

If I can accept all of life’s situations and circumstances as the expression of life Itself, then I will find that I am observing from my higher-Self. It is only when the ego needs to put its two cents in that I find it difficult to accept what is going on around me or vice- versa, when I do not accept what is happening, the ego jumps in to fill the space.

Simply learning to “accept what is” may very well be the ultimate inside job.