smart sex

Take off your Kinsey blinders

In the 1950s it may have been plausible that people could rate themselves on a 1-6 of ‘purely heterosexual’ to ‘purely homosexual,’ but this is 2013.

Ask the Sexpert: Say it before you play it

Dear Shanna,

It’s always awkward for me to bring up using a condom during oral sex with guys that I am hooking up with, but it’s very important to me to use protection, even during blow jobs. Any suggestions?

Ask the Sexpert: How to keep sex drive going strong during pregnancy

Dear Shanna,  My partner and I have decided to try in vitro fertilization to have…

A little curve, a big sway: What lesbians vs. straight men love about a woman’s body

When I first sat down to write this article, I asked myself ‘how hard could this be?’ I thought that discussing body-type preferences between lesbians and straight males would be an easy subject to tackle – that I could guess what they’d
say … I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Ask the Sexpert: How young is too young to for children to explore sexuality?

Dear Shanna,

I found some written porn stuff (like erotica) on my 12-year-old stepdaughter’s computer. I don’t want to demonize sex, masturbation or porn, but I feel like it was not an appropriate representation of sex, especially for somebody so young. Do you have any advice?

– Sex-Positive stepmom in Golden

Life and sex with HIV

HIV can have a significant impact on sex – for both the HIV-positive and HIV-negative alike. The possibility of transmission becomes the forefront, and for this reason that many people are afraid to get an HIV test, fearing that testing positive could doom their sex lives.

Being bi: Life in the middle of the spectrum

The ridicule comes from the old stereotype that bisexual men and women are either ultimately confused, or closeted homosexuals, afraid of making the full jump.

Ask the Sexpert: A luxuriance of lube

Dear Shanna,
Can using too much lube at one time wind up being dangerous? If so, what is the appropriate amount of lube to use?
– Slick Rick in the Hig

Ask the Sexpert: More than a friend

Dear Shanna,
I’ve been out for almost a decade now, but my girlfriend is a newly-out baby dyke and isn’t out to her family yet. I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but having her family think we’re “just” roommates is bothering me. What should I do?
– Out and Proud in Aurora

Ask the Sexpert: Gesundheit! Can I call you?

This might sound slightly weird, but I think that when I get horny, I tend to sneeze a lot more. Is this a thing, or am I imagining it? If it helps, I am a transgender guy, and I do take testosterone shots.