Stop Avoiding

Stop letting insecurity and panic about not achieving a particular outcome stop you from trying those things that you truly want to do. None of us are perfect and it often takes time to gain the skills necessary to do well at something.

It’s not unusual to avoid things that are uncomfortable.
It’s natural to focus energy on aspects of our lives that offer higher degrees of potential success, enjoyment, and fulfillment. Unfortunately the challenging parts may be left untouched and continue to impact us in damaging ways. Many struggle with breaking out of old patterns, especially when it comes to working on tough parts of our lives that we want to improve. Consider the following aspects:

Intimacy

This is a lot more than just getting naked with someone; it’s about allowing another person to get to know us on a deeper level. Although we operate in a surface-level world most of the time, there are people who are worthy of getting to know you better. If you feel those people aren’t in your life, you may be picking the wrong type to hang out with or could be struggling with allowing yourself to be truly honest with people beyond topics you consider safe to discuss.

Fear of Failure

Being really bad at handling rejection or not being good at something often keeps people from stepping outside their comfort zone. Stop letting insecurity and panic about not achieving a particular outcome stop you from trying those things that you truly want to do. None of us are perfect and it often takes time to gain the skills necessary to do well at something. Not trying will absolutely result in failure.

Our Desires

We can choose to blame society for stifling us in getting what we want. Our dreams may be crushed with the painful reality that it may take money, skills, and time that we don’t have available to achieve these. Our passions may be locked away by not being honest about what interests or intrigues us, not feeling confident enough to ask for those things, or acknowledging the other emotions that stop us from getting what we want.

Connecting

Sticking body parts in each other may not necessarily show that you are truly feeling that a connection is happening. It doesn’t matter if it happens physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  The feelings of bonding that can happen with another person are extremely beautiful and exciting when they happen. It doesn’t always have to result from a gigantic explosion of interpersonal bliss. It can simply come from a great conversation or spending a fun time together.

Happiness

Although many don’t necessarily know exactly what would make them feel happy or fulfilled in their lives, we definitely know when something sucks and causes us to want to lash out or run away. Take the time to evaluate when something great is happening currently and what you wish for the future. Don’t think that gaining a few key elements in your life will cause a magical fairytale to unfold in front of your eyes.

Like with any accomplishment or something challenging to achieve, it may take a significant amount of investment to get where you want to go. There are times when it may seem overwhelming or that the effort necessary is too much. Fight through these desires to give up and return to the status quo. It is not always easy, but the success gained by working through those issues that keep us from developing amazing lives can help us gain confidence in our ability to be successful in many other aspects. Don’t let past patterns of avoidance stop you from getting what you want. Think about incorporating the phrase, “no guts, no glory” into your list of available mantras.